The Capacity To Be Alone Is The Capacity To Love

I saw this little cheeky poem on Instagram and it intrigued me.

As an extrovert, I am not great at being alone, although I am definitely getting better at it. Google doesn’t really do us extroverts justice describing us simply as ‘an outgoing, socially confident person.’ Thank you Google, this is a compliment but more importantly being an extrovert requires some to “charge their batteries by surrounding themselves with other people.”  This is most certainly me!

Hence the reason this poem intrigued me. Also (check me out for going ahead and being brave) the fact that I am looking forward to meeting someone who I can share a loving relationship with and this poem is telling me to get better at being alone?

Either way, I like it so thought I’d put it on here as it makes the cogs in my head churn around.


The Capacity To Be Alone Is The Capacity To Love

It may look paradoxical to you, but it’s not. It is an existential truth: only those people who are capable of being alone are capable of love, of sharing, of going into the deepest core of another person — without possessing the other, without becoming dependant on the other, without becoming addicted to the other. They allow the other absolute freedom, because they know that if the other leaves, they will be as happy as they are now. Their happiness can not be taken by the other, because it is not given by the other.
–  Osho



14199148_10210131862043794_5662413218205850468_nBecause I am intrigued who this Osho guy is, here is a little Google definition of him:

Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, later known as “Osho,” was born December 11, 1931, in Kuchwada, India. After graduating from college and claiming to have found enlightenment, in 1970, he introduced the practice of “dynamic meditation,” became a spiritual teacher and began to attract a significant following.

He sounds like a pretty cool chap : )